Tuesday, August 12, 2014
Thursday, June 26, 2014
Technically, Summer has only been around for 5 days. The past week has been crap for me. I couldn't wait to sleep in and have days with nothing planned. The kids have been super bratty. The baby has been so needy. Husband has been so grumpy. Don't they know it is the best season, SUMMER!
Vacation in two weeks and it cannot come fast enough! We are going on an Epic road trip for three weeks. It should be an adventure.
I have noticed something lately with my adult friends. I have felt a lot of rejection. I have invited people out. I have invited people over. And the answer is always no. I am sure friends are not intentionally making me feel like this. I just just can't help but wonder what I am doing wrong.
The fact is - I can only take so much rejection. Then I assume we are no longer friends. And it sucks. Blah.
So that's where I am the last week. Missing my oldest child while he is at his bio dad's house. And a little lonely most days.
Today I made 9 jars of strawberry jam. Tomorrow I can see if my first attempt at canning worked. I hope it did. I need a summer filled with strawberry jam.
Tuesday, June 17, 2014
I am sad that Eric leaves to see his bio dad. He has a new baby brother over there and is SO excited to go meet him. I am happy for him. I am genuinely happy for my ex. Babies are miracles. Brothers are magical. Families are forever. <3 p="">
Three weeks until we leave on an EPIC road trip vacation. 7 weeks until I turn 30. And Lily turns 7. 4 months until Iris turns 2.
My vlog is going well. It makes me happy to look back on 5 minute videos of our lives.
I am happy. 3>
Monday, May 12, 2014
He didn't get me a card. Or even say "Happy Mother's day!" to me. And that is okay. I am not his mother.
The four little people whose mother I am made my mother's day special. There were hugs and kisses. Poems and songs. My eleven year old made me his first ever cup of coffee.
While I got no flowers or candy, I did get to take a nap. Husband went grocery shopping for me. (I HATE grocery shopping.)
I tried something new for dinner and no one complained. The kids even liked it! (One pot chicken lo mein from Pinterest FTW.)
I got myself a new food processor the week before and splurged on the good one and claimed it was my mother's day present. We needed one and I love it so much.
My mother's day was special. My mother's day was fantastic.
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Take a shower in view of a group of construction workers
Lose the baby
Lose the baby again
Fall down the stairs
Put things meant to go in the fridge in the freezer
Lock herself out of her dream home
Put thinks meant to be refrigerated in the pantry
Put too much detergent in the washing machine
Lose a pair of boots
Lose the baby's shoes
Lose a vlogging camera
(So, just a normal month, really.)
Sunday, February 09, 2014
I am exhausted. That is not a complaint. That is a fact. I'm sitting in my bed, utterly exhausted.
Today was another normal yet amazing day. My baby danced and giggled. My preschooler laughed his loud belly laugh at something I did not witness. My first grader helped me pack her room. My fifth grader waved his arms around in giant circles making me laugh. They all talked to me today.
There were times I was frustrated. There were times when some of them cried. There was a lot of poop. There were messes that needed cleaning.
But I sit here, in my bed, utterly and completely exhausted and content.
Thank you life, for being what you are.
Saturday, December 14, 2013
I get a call an hour later that Eric has a bloody nose. I rush down to the school and he does not. He appears fine. I talk to him and his special ed teacher and she says he can go back to class. I agree because he seems fine. As I drive home I start to freak out. I cry. I get home and don't know what to do. My husband never answers calls/texts/IMs when he is at work. I message him anyway. I ask Eric's bio dad to call me. He says he gets off in an hour.
So I post "Why me?" on face.book. Probably....no, definitely, a mistake. Never post about feelings on face.book. Ever. Anyway, as I share what happened I get bombarded with A LOT of advice. People start messaging me. I was probably given at least 20 numbers to call. Told I need to take him to the E.R. right away. I called Eric's psychiatrist and counselor and left messages. And as I waited for them to return my calls I was continually bombarded with "advice."
Then it really started to piss me off. None of these people know 100% of the story. None of them are doctors or trained professionals. What the fuck gives any of them the right to think THEY know better then ME or his DOCTOR? Guess what? THEY FUCKING DON'T!
With all things parenting - you have to just accept peoples advice and use what you really need. I really did feel bullied yesterday. And hurt. A few people who I thought were my best friends acted like I was a terrible mom if I didn't rush my kid off to the E.R. I took him to the E.R. the last time he was suicidal. He was literally telling me he wished his life would end, trying to jump out of his bedroom window. They sat us in a room for four hours and in the end only called his counselor. They also charged me $700 for it. Guess what? I can call his doctors and counselors FOR FREE.
The thing that really bothers me is that some of the people giving me advice - are complete hypocrites. A lot of the things they were telling me I need to be doing they never do themselves.
Eric's psychiatrist and counselor did call me back. He has appointments on Monday and Thursday. I am watching him closely. He will not be left unsupervised at all. He is safe. That is all that matters. If "friends" can't accept that I am doing what is best for him they can fuck off.